I’ve said it before and I’ll keep on saying it and trying to demonstrate it as I interact with people each day; “You don’t need to be perfect to be amazing!”
Daring to face making changes in our lives requires some critical thinking. We need to be honest as we look for the behaviors and characteristics that we desire to change. It’s really easy to be overly critical. We can be pretty harsh when it comes to judging self. And while honesty is essential, self-loathing is detrimental.
We need to give ourselves permission to be imperfect. (Is the spider web above amazing? Is it perfect?) If we hate the imperfection, it’s not too much of a leap to hate the self that is imperfect. And if I hate self, why bother trying to change? If I loathe self for its weakness or past mistakes, what makes me think that weak, flawed self can ever change? Weak folks don’t change. Brave, hopeful folks do.
We need to be brave enough to honestly acknowledge our past mistakes without judging ourselves weak or foolish. Those coping skills I used in the past were apparently the best I could do at the time with the knowledge and support I had then. Today, I have new knowledge, better support, and wiser goals.
Mistakes of the past have the power to make us wiser and stronger IF we can love ourselves enough to accept our less than perfect behavior. Our past (mistakes, flaws, missteps, and faults included) can launch us toward our success. Try to avoid the trap of PERFECTION. Let’s learn from our mistakes and keep our aim on PROGRESS.