Stories We Tell
Words have power and there are plenty of examples to prove that’s true. When people are challenged or frustrated by a situation, their words will often reflect their feelings. But sometimes those conversations are internal – those words nobody else hears us say.
Those internal conversations are especially important to monitor. How often do you say things about yourself that you’d never say about anyone else? What derogatory names do you call yourself that you’d never call another person? What story are you telling yourself when you face a frustrating situation or fall short of a goal? Just because we’re talking to ourselves doesn’t mean the words don’t matter. They may matter more because those words have the power to change us and shape our future.
If you keep telling yourself, “I can’t do this,” it’s just a matter of time before you can’t – chiefly because you decided that it’s impossible. Just because you weren’t successful doesn’t mean the situation’s impossible. Maybe it means you need to try some other way, team up with a friend, approach the situation from a different perspective, or make some preparations first.
So, the next time you bump into a tough situation or fall short of a goal, don’t say “I can’t do this.” Try to something like “this is really tough, what can I do differently this time?” or “if I can’t do this alone, who can I team up with?” Those are hopeful, helpful phrases which will move you forward.
Change your mind. Change your story. Change your life. Change the world.
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